There is nothing in this world sexier than a man or woman who knows he or she can make you crave sexual contact like you've never craved before and tantalizes you with their "expert" knowledge of the subject. Though often sexual innuendo is linked to socially unacceptable manifestations such as sexual harassment and sexual lewdness, the fact of the matter remains that were all born sexual beings with an inborn sexual nature whether or not we are engaged in a sexual act or behaviour. Very, very few of us have any notion of what our true nature as sexual beings is, and consequently have no means of resolving or reconciling the discords and confusions of our powerful instinctive sexual drives, urges, fantasies, desires, thoughts and sensations. Of those who are insightful enough to perceive the mystical code of their sexuality, few are able to communicate, express, manifest or self-disclose in healthy ways that bring happiness, joy and fulfillment into all aspects of our mental, physical, sexual, emotional and spiritual lives. In the art of seduction, one's ability to artfully mix being sexual, natural and playful is what separates seduction that's gold-medal memorable from seduction that is mechanical and forced. When men and women who lack this ability try to seduce using sexual innuendo they often come across as bubbly full-of-themselves sexual delusionals. On the other hand, a man or woman who knows what they got and can actually deliver has that "edge" that makes them interesting and irresistibly seductive. But quite often many men and women avoid talking about anything sexual altogether because they dont want to be perceived as over sexed and those who want to be admired for their brains rather than their sexual being-ness. These individuals fall flat on their faces when it comes to the art of seduction. Besides being boring, they scream sexually insecure, "sexually uptight" or sexually inexperienced. Give yourself the opportunity to display extreme sexual confidence, to advertise yourself as a person who posses a fire that consume a sexual partner, but keep in mind that there is a fine and fleeting line between harassment, sex solicitation, plain lewdness and the playful use of sexual innuendo in the art of seduction. Men and women respond differently to sexual innuendoes and sexual teasing. Women tend to get hurt, embarrassed and often put off by men who are constantly talking about nothing but sex all the time, men on the other hand become more aroused. Nonetheless, both men and women enjoy a little sexual innuendo with women focusing on male sexual habits, sexual over readiness and excessive desireand men on womens physical characteristics, pretence that they are not sexually interested, and women's innate ability to confuse men and get them really mixed up. In the name of good taste, be sure to adopt "less is more" mentality- saying something but not too much. A range of subtle words, phrases, sentences and comments that can be interpreted in two or more ways, exaggerated tone of voice, elongated vowels, unusual facial expressions, a little laugh just before or after the sexual innuendo signals to the other person that you are just being playfully yourself - and not trying to solicit for sex. This vacillating between one and the other plays a large role in how artfully you can string someone along and keep them entertained, amused, fascinated and anticipating. If things are interesting, rather than boring and predictable, you're halfway toward building attraction. But before you can really master the use of sexual innuendo in the art of seduction, you have to get in a place within yourself where you are aware of, accept and embrace all your innermost feelings, thoughts and intimate interpersonal issues, including your sexual desires and urges. Learn to actually love sex in a healthy way (not as away to get back at the opposite sex or merely satisfy your horniness, but actually loving sex as sacred and beautiful). This will make you feel sexually desirable which will in turn increase your capacity to artfully interest, entertain, fascinate, titillate and pleasure the opposite sex; which in turn increases your sexual self confidence and this automatically makes you place a higher value on yourself and on the goodness of others; which increases your likelihood of success with the use of the art of seduction. I know that sexual innuendo is not for everyone. There are many out there who fear anything sexual altogether, who can never allow themselves a moment of uninhibited thoughts, words and behaviours or at least admit it, if they do. To the rest of you, I say, "Enjoy!" |
