People of any age find that dating is a challenge. Your hair, your make-up, and whether you look fat or not is a worry. Men, you worry about your tie, is it straight. You worry about having enough money and whether you will like her. Being like and accepted is something wanted by both men and women. There are things you can do to make your date less stressful, believe it or not. Make your date as comfortable as possible. If you are asking your date a lot of questions they may feel they are on trial. Your questioned should be open ended and conservation should flow naturally. Talk about all kinds of topics and try to engage your date in the conversation. Conversation that is forced is difficult, don't let it happen. "Relax, be yourself and you'll be fine."is something people hear a lot. Sharing your interests with your date is fine but don't forget to listen to them as well. You and your date will probably be nervous, so try to relax. It is important that you be on time to either pick up your date or be ready to be picked up. There are definitely things you should not do on a date. It is not good to talk about yourself all night or to whine and complain about your ex because your date will wonder what you will say about them. Your date is not an Inquisition so don't ask a lot of questions. Get ready on time and don't be late picking up your date. Don't forget to say thank you for a good time for your date, it is important. As part of dating you and your date should spend time getting to know one another. You might want to try some that you have not done up until now. It could ease tension and you could learn something interesting if you alternate deciding where you will go. The most important concern about dating is dating safety. There is such a wide variety of ways to meet people now that it's easy for anyone with less than good intentions to act on them. Men should pay attention to the following suggestions as well as women because they can both be targeted. Go to public places for the first few dates not isolated ones. If you are meeting someone you've met online, there are things you can do to keep yourself safe, aside from meeting him or her in a very public place. Never go alone, have friends go to the same place you are, and keep you in their sight at all times. Considering this might be a good idea even if you have met your date already. Listen to your gut if you have any kind of uncomfortable feeling and do what you need to do to keep yourself safe. Learning about your date is important. Do you know where s/he lives? Do you know what kind of work he does for a living? Do not consider continuing to date him if he doesn't want to tell you. Your date could be the most wonderful person in the world but be careful if they won't share any personal information. I suppose that giving too much information is a warning signal as well. The date rape drugs you've heard of can not only be put in alcohol but in tea, soda, water, and coffee. They actually can go in almost any beverage. This is why it is good to have a friend nearby so that if you leave the table, they can keep an eye on your drink and your date. Limit how much alcohol you drink. You need to be aware and keep your wits about you all the time especially if you are driving. Use any safety device that you can, as long as it's legal. A cell phone is the most important tool for any one because your car could break down or be in a wreck. Help will come that much faster if you use your cell phone. It is a good idea to have your cell programmed so that you can contact 911 by pushing just one button. You can program most cell phones with a particular key that when pressed dials 911 automatically. GPS capability is available on most cellular phones. High decibel personal alarms and pepper sprays are two other safety tools. Community authorities and/or lawyers can tell you what is acceptable in your community. Some places have made pepper sprays illegal. Never go anywhere unfamiliar alone, whether dating or not, is another piece of safety advice. Your seat belt should always be worn. If you are ordered to go with someone with a weapon some suggest that you take a stand right away. Do what you have to do to become safe, scream, yell, bite, or kick. The eyes and groin are very sensitive, go for them. Hit the attacker by shoving the heel of your hand very hard into their nose. People will react to someone yelling fire rather than help. Do not give out too much personal information, watch how much you tell. Keeping yourself safe hasn't always been such a serious matter, sadly it's only a memory. Over powering someone and covering up crimes has developed new methods. Always let someone know where you are going and who you are going with, keep yourself safe. |
